Don't be judgmental. We don't know the truth about how someone else really feels. They may be expressing anger whey they are really in a state of fear.
They may be struggling for iindependence and feel that your love is smothering them. Again it may be a desire for freedom and fear of the unknown.
Change can be frightening, and certain periods of or life are filled with uncertainty and confusion. We think we know what we want but are not sure of the hows or the ability to attain it. So we stay in the safe harbor and express our resentment for it.
Life is choice and facing our fears and overcoming them one step at a time. We generally strike out at those we love most because we feel a sense of safety in that love to express ourselves.
Unfortunately when we are not in truth we cause pain instead of understanding. Instead of saying this is what I'm feeling we criticize inappropriately.
Our anger creates more anger and the truth gets lost in the exhibition of emotionalism. Then, instead of a cooling off period we pick at the scabs of our emotional wounds to justify our pain.
We refuse to let a healing take place and wonder what went wrong and why we are alone. We keep it alive until a chasm is created that is almost impossible to cross.
Love is precious, and should be, unconditionally. That does not mean we should accept abuse, only that we release the person in the most loving way possible and allow the lines of communication to remain open if we want to continue a relationship, in some form, with the other person.
We don't need to express what we are feeling in anger, only in truth. We don't not need to take responsibility for anothers choices and we need to release those we love in order that they may move on in their path, and we in ours. And if those paths merge into one, so much the better.
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