On Being A Mother

Being a mother doesn't end when your children are grown, the definition and the challenges just change. When to speak your mind and when to keep quiet. To be there when needed but not to interfere.

To teach by example of living in joy at any age and that blessings continue even as you grow older. To treat others with respect. Teach don't preach. Let them recognize that you are still active, vital and independent.

That you don't want to be smothered anymore than they do. We all need encouragement and approval at any age, especially from our moms. Teach them how to find their own peace. That it comes from within not from possessions or position.

Always strive to be the best you can be at any age. Treasure the blessings of friendship and family. Be authentic and you will be happy. Don't try to be something you're not to please others. Teach your children to see the gift of each day and not to be afraid to reach for the stars.

Remember your faith is important and your relationship to God. When we put Him first all good things will follow. Don't get into the middle of an argument between your children and their spouses, but withdraw to another place.

It's okay to pray for your children's happiness and their difficulties, but don't try to solve all their problems. Allow them to learn their own lessons and to grow by them.

Don't discourage your children from moving away, they need to learn to spread their wings and fly. Where we are in life is where we are supposed to be. When someone is in your heart they are always near.

Don't let them discourage you from being and doing either. Help them understand that you also have a life. It is never too late to learn new things. Don't make your children your life. Know when to let go.

Sometimes you may even need to give them a push. Be patient when they are trying to find themselves. If you're still living, you too are still learning. Being a mother doesn't mean that we know everything, so don't pretend you do.

Our children can teach us as well. Trust God to care for them. Remember He loved them first and is the Father of all, including you. Continue to make memories, share joys, and holidays, but mostly love.

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